Love or Lust?

Sudish- You rock!

It goes like this..................
We find it rather difficult to articulate what it is like to be in love and why we got attracted to the people we did. So, mysterious is this very profound emotion. Possibly it is this mysterious nature of the emotion itself draws us to it. And all of us seek its presence.

But, don’t you think that these two emotions that of lust and love are so intricately intertwined that it is quite possible to mistake one for the other. And many a seemingly romantic relationships have turned out to be lustful liaisons.

Though completely opposite in nature, there is no denying the fact that both lust and love are essential ingredients for a happy and successful marriage. But, lust being a temporary longing, a shallow feeling and one-dimensional craving cannot be the foundation of either a strong or a lasting relationship. Someone humorously pointed out that while love is driving down the countryside, lust is long sessions at the parking lot in lover’s lane.

So, what are the tell tale signs you could look out for in order to understand whether it is love or lust that your relationship is based on? Read on to find out.

If you are overly enamoured about the looks of the person and, keep fantasizing about the physical person and don’t care much about the person as a whole. You don’t care about building up emotional ties. Then, chances are that it is lust.

Does it matter to you that your spouse/partner is not looking picture perfect on a certain day? A yes means that you are more concerned about the physical appearance and are not interested to go beyond it. Which is where love takes you.

What do you do when the two of you are together- alone? Is the only thing you can think of doing is engaging in some sort of sexual activity? Or do you enjoy just being with each other? If you have answered question number one in the affirmative then there is cause for concern.

Do you or your partner place utmost importance on his/her personal satisfaction/ gratification? In that case the relationship is more likely to be based on lust. When two people are in love they are more likely to put each other’s needs on the priority list.

If you experience a sense of togetherness. A feeling that leads you to think that your lives would be empty without each other. Then your relationship is one that is based on love.

In conclusion one can say that it is important to realize that lust can exist in a loving relationship. But it cannot be the foundation because of its very nature!